I’m continuing with the topic, why men marry some women and not others. Last week I looked at what kind of man falls into the marrying kind category. This week’s focus is on first impressions and why they're important. What goes through a man’s mind when he lays eyes on you because he’ll definitely be thinking something? It doesn’t mean he automatically fancies you but he will be weighing up whether he finds you attractive, likes your smile, shoes, is intrigued by what you have to say or doesn’t like you at all.
Men are attracted to the physical but marry character. That’s right ladies it's your character that will promote you to wifey status. What does your personality say about you? Do you have a stank attitude? Does it hurt every muscle in your face to smile? Are you family orientated? Are you a miserable person to be around? Men will secretly observe how you carry yourself.
Physical attraction plays a large part in relationships/ marriage. It’s not the B all and end all but it is significant. You may be compatible on several levels but without physical attraction you won’t notice each other. I’m not suggesting your partner has to look like a model but there needs to be some form of attraction. Sex is important within marriage and if you don’t find your partner attractive then surely this will go on to affect your sex life?
In a survey couples were asked if physical attraction matters. While most women agreed that the emotional connection is way more important than the physical, but nonetheless physical attraction matters. For men, the need for physical compatibility is very high.
John’s research found that : Newly engaged men said that what attracted them to their fiancées was how classy, positive, energetic, enthusiastic, and upbeat their future wives were.
While 68% gave a physical description of their fiancée, only 20% said that what attracted them was how gorgeous and sexy their fiancée was. Over 60% described their personalities, even if the women in question were very beautiful.
Ladies dress appropriately! This sends out the message, “I am wife material.” Men marry women they perceive as “situational virgins” who move easily in their world. I confess as a teenager I dressed provocatively whilst clubbing. I felt the more skin on show the more attention I’d get (for the wrong reasons). I had low self-esteem and hid my lack of confidence by dressing in an overtly sexy manner. While this may bag you a man I can’t guarantee it will keep him.
Research also showed that men view scanty outfits as an invitation to sex. They decide within 10 minutes of meeting a woman if she’s appropriate for marriage, or just for a casual affair. You can be sexy and classy at the same time. It leaves a lasting impression and your outfit can’t be misconstrued if it’s got a touch of class.