There seems to be this idea that
men are more content being single than women. I know both sex’s desire
relationships but I do feel that men deal with the single life better. Women
tend to vocalize their need for a relationship more because it’s at
the forefront of their minds and society deems unattached women as outcasts
more often than men. Women are constantly reminded about the biological clock
and crave a family men don’t have this kind of pressure.
Evan Marc Katz wrote an interesting piece on the subject. Below
are 4 reasons women hate being single compared to men.
SEX - this may seem hard to digest but there are some men who
don’t desire to have the same kind of relationship that women do. Some of your
needs are being met i.e. spending lots of time together with the hope that it
turns into a serious relationship. He has other plans in mind and you’ll find
that the relationship is often on his terms. When you’re together it’s good but
once you’ve gone it’s out of sight out of mind. Why you ask? Probably because
his needs are being met throughout his career, friendships, hobbies etc.
Feelings will always grow the longer you’re intimate with someone but
it doesn't mean it will develop into a relationship. Plus there’s
less stigma around men having casual sex.
EXPECTATIONS- I believe women have greater expectations
whilst dating and inadvertently put pressure on the men and themselves. Men can
date casually and not get attached; this is much harder for women. Men
often go into dating relaxed with the notion of having fun getting to know you.
Women on the other hand go in with higher expectations hoping to find their
knight in shining armour. Men are more patient with the process and are willing
to accept women for who they are.
SELF- DEFINTION- Steve Harvey said
that men are defined by three things who he is (his title), what he does
(his job), and how much he makes (his reward for his efforts). Women
don’t function like this, not to say we are not career driven or ambitious but
deep down our emotional being will override all that. Women are more likely to
see their relationship as what defines them and sometimes obsess about being
single. We then get lonely/ needy and start to question ourselves. Men can date
multiple women and get each different need met. Women don’t like to do this and
would rather have the whole package.
COMMUNICATION STYLES- I love to talk and have a great
network of men/ women I can babble on to. Men don’t have the same support and
tend to keep their circle smaller. Notice it’s mainly women reading self-help
books and going to seminars because we have no problem admitting we need help. My
girlfriends and I discuss our feelings often, it’s the norm. I’m not sure how
many men openly vocalise their need for assistance.
We all have similar needs, don’t
we? The longing for companionship, affection, support emotionally and mentally.
Though it seems each sex deals with these needs differently. I have to agree
that men find it easier being single. Thoughts?
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